
When one offers or is asked to make a wedding cake one must first establish a few details before agreeing. No matter how close you are to the bride and groom, no matter how well you think you know them, you absolutely must ask questions. Assumptions will be the death of you.
*How many guests will there be at the wedding?
(Tip: You must ask this question at least 3 times as the number will continue to grow)
This is a very important question and unless you are a professional may greatly influence your decision to make the wedding cake. I have learned that it is wrong to assume that just because you think the bride/groom have always talked about a small wedding, that they will in fact have a small wedding.
*What style of wedding is it going to be?
Again if you are only an amateur baker this question may help you reach a decision as to whether you are in fact the best person to be making said wedding cake. In my experience the general assumption that the bride/groom will have an informal/non conventional wedding is not the same as the bride/groom actually having an informal/ non conventional wedding.
*Are there any family members/wedding guests who are likely to make me regret choosing/offering to make the wedding cake?
This, although slightly controversial, is a vital question to have answered. I can assure you when(1 hour before the wedding) you are at the reception in a mad frenzy icing 300 cupcakes to construct a wedding tower, with time ticking away and hair as yet to be washed and legs as yet to be shaved, the last thing you need to hear is a distant voice muttering "who would ever have 'patty cakes' at a wedding, look at all these shitty little 'patty cakes'. Even when said insult eventually masquerades as a compliment: "well I had to eat my own words when I saw how those shitty little patty cakes turned into something so beautiful" you may well wish that you had let the bride and groom buy a wedding cake and that you had spent your morning relaxing.
*Do you want a a proper cake in addition to the cupcake tower?
more importantly..
*If you say no is it likely that you will ask me at the wedding if I have made another cake which you will cut into?
When you are finally at the wedding feeling as though your responsibilities are over and you can let your (unwashed)hair down and relax it is never very pleasant to have a bride/groom come and 'check' that you infact did not make a cake for them to cut into.
So all in all I did not make a cake topper, I did not know (until the weekend before) you had to cater 2-3 cupcakes per guest (you do, people will actually eat 3!!), I did not really realise how formal the wedding was, I did not really factor in baking over 300 cupcakes in a holiday rental apratment, I did not see the bridesmaid dresses for matching the 'champagne' color frosting and I did not end up washing my hair.
The thing I did do is realise is how madly in love my brother and his wife are.
I am so glad they let me be a creative part of their beautiful wedding. It was an absolutely breath-taking day and I can only hope that my 'shitty little patty cakes' did it some justice.
Congratulations Matt and Ray!






